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1. William Meloney says

   November 20, 2016 at 7:15 pm

   I wanted to celebrate with you right until you slighted Feminism. “Feminists robbed us of love and affection when they poisoned women’s hearts against us.” The fact that you even suggest that it poisoned women’s hearts means you do not understand Feminism at all. In fact such criticism of Feminism places you squarely in the camp of misogyny, the very thing that Feminism is working so hard to dismantle. Please do some serious soul searching and study what real Feminism is about. I don’t believe that a man of your understanding will be so quick to paint it with such a broad brush in the future.

   I realize that I have used some strong language. Please reach out to me to continue a civil conversation on this topic.

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   • Bryan Ward says

     November 23, 2016 at 4:53 pm

     William, you can love women without loving feminism. Feminism has been largely co-opted and weaponized. I would welcome a movement that worked to genuinely protect the rights and sovereignty of both genders without demonizing the other. Unfortunately, feminism has demonstrated it is no longer the vehicle to do that.

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     • Michael says

       December 22, 2016 at 4:26 am

       Bryan,
       He is somewhat right and you are somewhat right. The message you are really conveying is masked by negativity in your use of words. There is no need to attack, support or otherwise discuss feminism to get your message across. It’s a distraction from your truth. Remember the best message is True, Necessary and Kind. That’s not new age bullshit from a Julia Roberts movie, that’s hard core shit from the Buddha. It hard to express ourselves that way, but much more effective.

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   • Emmanuel Pempengco says

     January 17, 2017 at 7:23 am

     He was just writing poetically in essay form. Don’t take it seriously. He writes irreverently and that is his style. How many times had he use the word shit? Others would use sh#t but he won’t. Anyway, freedom to express one’s opinion. He has, you have, I have. Bloody hell, it’s his website.

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   • Emmanuel Pempengco says

     January 17, 2017 at 7:27 am

     He was just writing poetically in essay form. Don’t take it seriously. He writes irreverently and that is his style to get a profound message across. How many times had he use the word shit? Others would use sh#t but he won’t. Anyway, freedom to express one’s opinion. He has, you have, I have. WTF, it’s his website.

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   • John says

     January 26, 2017 at 9:08 pm

     I have had this discussion with several feminists lately. I am amazed that in each case I was told that I didn’t understand what true feminism is. The amazing thing is that there is no definition offered, just the fact that only feminists understand it. Then, when pursued further for some kind of a definition, Bam! the misogynist card is played. This is 4 for 4 lately. I cannot understand how feminists continue to pretend that they are advocates for all people.

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   • Tom says

     October 4, 2018 at 8:21 pm

     Feminism in it’s current state is a weaponized bullying mechanism. Clearly the author does not knock women, see them as anything other than equals, etc. The majority of the strong independent women I know are squarely against the current form of modern feminism. Do some research, look at what is really being said. Be a man. Love a woman.

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2. Charles says

   April 17, 2017 at 1:56 pm

   All due respect, I have very little respect for men for fall squarely into the ‘feminist’ camp. Do some research. A huge percentage of EVEN WOMEN in this country now reject the feminist movement because it has, just as Bryan has pointed out, been weaponized and turned into nothing more than man bashing. I find them nothing more than a group of sad, frustrated women who want to blame men for all of their troubles, and in no way should be taken seriously. They are no better than the Black Lives Matter movement, in my opinion, and are as equally divisive and equally full of hate. The women who led the way on women’s rights and fought to get women equal rights in this country, to including being able to vote, are probably turning over in their graves at seeing what this has become. And there you have it … exercising my freedom of speech.

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   • Tom says

     October 4, 2018 at 8:24 pm

     “Sad, frustrated women…”
     You forgot overweight and blue haired with multiple piercings.
     But really, the women in that camp are the equivalent of men that think bitch about all women and blame societies problems on them just because they aren’t man enough to be a solid male figure in a woman’s life.

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3. John W says

   January 1, 2018 at 8:43 pm

   It’s a masculine thing, I think, to want definitions and explanations that are rational to our own perspective. When we can’t have that we tend to devalue the position of the other—at the very least. Truth is, we’re blind to our blindness. It is extremely difficult to extricate ourselves from the specific context of the body and all the ways that informs our views, or the social structures of gender, class, income, location… or the culture and all the ways that informs the person, etc… I’m not caving here, if someone wants to hate me because of what dangles between my legs, so be it. But their hate doesn’t give me the right to judge their experience or solutions as less valid than my own—or to set myself in opposition to it.

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   • Joe M says

     December 20, 2018 at 7:24 pm

     LATE TO THE PARTY, I KNOW :
     You’re missing the point. Feminism does not wholly represent the right to equality for women, it’s just one engine in an attempt to get there. Which is respectable, but again, as has been mentioned a few times in this thread, it’s conspicuously obvious, at least to some, that the engine of feminism has been weaponized against the male gender – it’s become a judgment of man simply for being man and not on the value of one man’s character and treatment of women as an individual. Isn’t that what feminism, at its core, is supposed to oppose – discounting or devaluing a gender based on gender alone? What Bryan and the others are saying is that there are better ways of bringing equality to the table than trying to force feed people and then demonize anyone who doesn’t swallow. A lot of people, men and women alike, are walking away from the feminist movement for the way it’s been co-opted, commercialized, and weaponized for wealthy lobbyist’s special interests. If the cards were reversed, where a group of upset men (and remember, feminism is just a sect of women, not the sex as a whole) were demonizing women who didn’t want to bow down to them and apologize for their gender – be honest, you wouldn’t have a problem with that!? Yes, all women should have a right to express their views however they see fit, but then, so should Bryan. That’s equality. And finally, it’s pretty obvious, at least to me, that he isn’t disparaging women’s rights or their right to equality at all. But isn’t it scary when you’re having to be fearful for your views against one movement, even when you disagree with its methods? Isn’t that censorship?

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4. Sis Benedict says

   January 17, 2018 at 8:54 am

   Just so I understand your point is that if you can’t define what your movement stands for then even though its descriptor free its as legitimate a belief system as one that can detonate its belief system.

   Why bother cluttering our minds with logic when unstructured belief systems are enough!!!

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5. Joe Mac says

   December 28, 2018 at 2:20 am

   Who else thinks Bryan needs to start a Third Way Man podcast?

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6. Sean Marin says

   June 4, 2021 at 8:48 pm

   Love this!

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