The Proper Care And Feeding Of Demons

There is this notion that masculinity is a basket of “good” and “bad” qualities that men can pick and choose from.

The pleasant, “good” qualities being things like provision, duty, and procreation.

The distasteful, “bad” qualities being things like lust, violence, and anger.

The project of radical feminism has been to convince men that they must “rid” themselves of the distasteful qualities in their nature if they are to find acceptance in the feminized world we now live in.

But you cannot cherry-pick the parts of masculinity you like.

Just as a structural engineer cannot keep the abutments but dispense with the footings.

Man is a totality of strengths and weaknesses built in perfect tension and relation to each other, like a bridge.

When men seek to rid themselves of the “nasty bits” of their gender–the so-called demons–the bridge collapses.

You cannot bridge an ocean without tension, without resorting to a mass of steel suspended in configurations of terrifying force.

The answer is not to pick and choose the elements of masculinity you will embody, as though your sex was a buffet table.

The answer is to admit, acknowledge, and radically own every aspect of your gender, no matter how ugly, volatile, or “untidy” they may seem.

Man is messy.

Try to bury that fact, and your gender will bury you.

Denying the mess is a recipe for slavery, misery, and heart disease.

Make no mistake, when you go off-script and embrace the mess, you will feel (and seem) dangerous.

Feminism treats your masculinity like a loaded gun because unapologetic, fully-embraced masculinity IS a loaded gun.

You ARE dangerous.

That’s what it means to be a man.

And uncocking the hammer does nothing but emasculate yourself and render you useless to yourself, your family, and the world at large.

The lie is that you can get rid of the “offending” parts of your gender and still retain your masculine power.

In truth, you have two choices: be dangerous yet well-wielded, or scale yourself down to a cap gun, shooting blanks.

Bryan Ward is the founder of Third Way Man and author of the LIT Black Paper


  1. OH. MY. GOD.

    Everything I’ve read here so far is giving me waves of chills and wells of burgeoning tears. Thank you. I will share your material with ardent vigor and unabashed brazenness as a well established rebel for the revelers on this journey for whole human being. Verbosity rocks…sometimes. Thanks for the clarity and pithiness I shall emulate in further postings and in my own attempts to share this message’s equivalent with women everywhere.

  2. After all, it’s better to be a warrior in a garden, than a gardener in a war.

  3. Unapologetic says

    Yet another apologetic article for men to excuse their existence.
    Women also lust, women are more violent and angry, not just because they lose control easier because of hormones but their violence is excused by society and isn’t seen as an issue.
    This article seems to be written under the premise that only males are imperfect. HUMANS are imperfect, HUMANS lust, get angry and get violent.
    Stop accepting the dominant narrative as ‘truth’ and then trying write some kind of apologetic article where men are offered the ‘yeah we’re bad but we can’t help it’ existance.
    We are men! Without us civilised society wouldn’t exist, be proud, do your best, fuck the government and only turn on your TV if it’s connected to an XBOX.

    • Bryan Ward says

      Of course women are not excused. Of course women are fallible. But while the behavior of our women is out of our direct control, our OWN behavior is not.

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